Is there a way to make a sane relationship with our bad deeds and our regrets, to learn from them and to move on from them? • it’s not easy to face up to all that we’ve done; it’s not easy to find a way between wallowing in guilt and evading responsibility • in the Buddhist monastic traditions, there is a practice that addresses this issue • it’s assumed that over time we can’t avoid causing harm, but this practice provides a way of directly facing and working with the harm we have caused • the starting point is remorse; we feel bad about what we have done, and we want to do something about it • remorse leads us to the second step: acknowledging our harmful actions, confessing them, and seeking to purify them • the third step is making amends, counteracting the harm we’ve done by doing something beneficial, which could include asking for forgiveness • acknowledging and working with our mistakes is so much better than just holding onto a big pool of regret • we can include everything, all of our experiences, to the enrichment of our journey.